Your Personality Based On Your Social Media Use
You can tell a lot about people based on their social media use, and there are actually specific behavior patters that more likely than not, end up to be accurate portrayals of a problematic personality type. Some posts on social media are obvious and don’t really mean anything; like hobbies and interests and what kind of lifestyle people like others to believe they have. But sometimes, there are posts and specific behavior that can be an accurate projection of how people really feel towards both themselves and others. What’s interesting is that social media has now presented us with a new window to analyze our behavior on a relatively very new platform, one that greatly differs from any other method in history.
The problem is that we share haphazardly, not consciously and with a sense of purpose. That information, whether it’s a serious post or a picture of you on acid in Nevada, can be detrimental to your reputation and how others perceive you. And no, we’re not talking about morals here; this can affect business prospects and can be used as evidence against you in courts of law. It’s that widespread and that effective, your social media use. It’s completely due to our voluntary actions of sharing, liking, posting, and commenting. Even people who don’t post often (enough) can be assessed to deduce the reason behind their lack of interaction. Here are some common social media habits and what they may tell us about ourselves and others:
Are You Tagged Often? People Think Highly Of You
If you find yourself tagged often on social media (by people other than your family members), it basically means that people think you’re awesome. The better news is that they like your personality and you aren’t seen as a person with a stick up your ass. The agreeableness factor goes a long way in social situations, and being tagged constantly is one byproduct of that.
That Friend Who Posts 300 Selfies / Week? Meet The Narcissist
People who post several pictures of themselves daily or on a constant basis need validation from their social media audience in order to feel better about themselves. This behavior has been associated with narcissism, an extreme form of self-centeredness that according to Psychology Today, includes “ an excessive need to be admired by others and have a sense of entitlement”. So basically, narcissists feel like shit if you don’t like their 14th selfie. Narcissists are also more likely to edit and enhance their pictures, and often like the pictures of others to receive likes themselves. Science!
Constant Posts of How Good A Person’s Life Is? S/he Has Low Self-Esteem
People who never fail to post on their social media profiles where they went, what they ate, checked-in, and completely awesome their life is are more likely to have self-esteem issues than those who don’t, researchers say. In other words, the reason why some people post excessively about their possessions and whereabouts (car, jewelry, vacations, partying) do it because they feel good when people acknowledge that they have them and “reward” them with likes and comments. Likewise, it is a mechanism to prove that a person is worthy of love. This is giving your social media audience permission to determine whether they enjoy themselves or not. If you find yourself relating to this, love yourself first and foremost. No matter what people think of you, people’s minds change in a second. Enjoy your life first and foremost, and never give anyone the power or key to your happiness.
Joint Social Media Account? Someone Has Trust Issues
Partners who don’t trust their significant others are more likely to have one social media account for both of them. Not really surprising, but interesting nonetheless in how controlling behavior manifests in a seemingly innocent gesture of togetherness. If you’re in denial that this isn’t write; consider why – either you hinted heavily at it or your partner did. This behavior is controlling behavior regardless of who came up with the idea, since partners need their space. By creating a joint Facebook account, it decreases the liklihood that one partner will communicate with or have habits that the other partner does not approve of. It’s sometimes a subtle method and other times an outright tool of control that one partner may be ignorant of, under the guise of shared interests and audience.
More than 300 Facebook Friends? People Don’t Take You Seriously
Most people on this earth have a limited circle of close friends. The rest are acquaintances – big difference. Research has found that a person with over 300 friends on social media causes people to think less of an individual. To be clear, this isn’t related to business owners, celebrities, or employees who need thousands of friends / subscribers for business purposes such as blogging or promotion. This is specifically aimed at those who add people randomly to gain numbers, not relationships. Unfortunately for them, research gives them the side-eye, indicating that having too many friends that one does not know is directly linked to low-self esteem.
Posting Too Little Or Barely at All? Paranoid Narcissism
Paranoid Narcissists face a seemingly common problem, and that is an irrational fear that they are always being watched or judged by others; whether it’s by the government or their extended family members. In an attempt to remain seemingly aloof; paranoid narcissists would rather not post at all than post and be susceptible to the opinion of others. They are however, active on social media and use it daily for other purposes. This is actually a type of personality based on social media use – or to be more accurate, based on their non-use.
As we increase our online presence and share more and more about our lives, it’s important to remember that this is a virtual reality and not by any mean a real one. In the pursuit of maintaining a perfect façade or one that is envied by others, we are losing sight of the bigger picture, that memories aren’t made on the keyboard or by tapping a screen; but by talking and touching, living and being with others.